“What the heck is my partner thinking?” is a common refrain in romantic relationships, and with good reason. Every person is wired for love otherwise, with different habits, needs, and reactions to conflict. The good news is that most of the people’s minds work in predictable ways and respond well to security, attachment, and rituals, making it imaginable to in reality neurologically prime the brain for greater love and fewer conflicts.
Wired for Love is a complete insider’s guide to understanding your partner’s brain and enjoying a romantic relationship built on love and consider. Synthesizing research findings on how and why love lasts drawn from neuroscience, attachment theory, and emotion regulation, this book presents ten guiding principles that can enhance any relationship.
Reinforce your relationship by:
• Creating and maintaining a safe “couple bubble”
• Using morning and evening rituals to stay connected
• Learning to fight so that nobody loses
• Becoming the expert on what makes your partner feel loved
By learning to use simple gestures and words, readers can learn to put out emotional fires and help their partners feel more safe and secure. The no-fault view of conflict in this book encourages readers to move past a “warring brain” mentality and toward a more cooperative “loving brain” understanding of the relationship. This book is essential reading for couples and others interested in understanding the complex dynamics at work at the back of love and consider in intimate relationships.
Whilst there’s no doubt that love is an inexact science, if you’ll be able to discover how you and your partner are wired otherwise, you’ll be able to overcome your differences to create a lasting intimate connection.